An explanation of Grey Rocking, it’s uses and how to do it.

The confusing scenario of being in an abusive relationship where the partner also seems kind and caring. What this does to the psyche and why therapy is often required to extract a person from these entangled relationships.

Covert Narcissists tend to create good optics outside of the home, so people think they are kind, generous, charming etc. These days they also use social media to create a positive impression. Indeed, they may behave nicely most of the time to all but one or two people (their scapegoats) or their abusive outbursts may be occasional.

               Like overt narcissistic personalities, they do vary, but what they often have in common with the overts is that they are

·        Self-focused

·        Economical with the truth

·        Prone to exaggerate

·        Crave attention and validation

·        Angry if their needs are not met

·        Lack of genuine empathy

Looking at recovery or child exiled parts through psychotherapeutic intervention, using Internal Family Systems following a narcissistic abuse relationship.

Over time, and this may take decades, the client comes to a tipping point and there is often an ‘Ah, ha’ moment in working with clients who are survivors of a Narcissistic relationship where they realise what is going on.

Looking for a New Year’s resolution for 2026?

Here’s a short and simple one: ‘Disidentify with the mind’*